Monday, August 6, 2012

28 Things To Do Before I Die

Dear All,

This is an open letter to all those who love me and whom I hold in slightly high regard.


I was doing a bit of cleaning in my room today and I came across a document written in my own handwriting titled "29 Things To Do Before I Die". I dont know when I wrote this, how I wrote this, if I copied it from somewhere or I was just feeling immensely full of life.


I almost cried when I read it, and I have decided that before the decade is done I will do each and every one of these things on the list. I would like all those close to me to make sure I follow through. You can also join me.


Without further ado,

  1. Learn to fly
  2. Donate a month's salary to charity
  3. Climb a mountain alone
  4. Buy a piece of original art
  5. Do a good deed anonymously
  6. Laugh everyday
  7. Run a marathon
  8. Visit every continent
  9. Feel the need to write love poetry
  10. Surprise someone by telling them how I feel
  11. Cry with happiness
  12. Meet a leader of a country
  13. Start a trip without any idea of the destination
  14. Give a child a home
  15. Sleep under the stars
  16. Leap before I look
  17. Defend a principle at a personal cost
  18. Make a speech that changes someone's life
  19. Be a best friend to more than one person
  20. Meditate
  21. Be present at the birth of anything
  22. Love as though there is no tomorrow
  23. Forgive someone who does not deserve it
  24. Work for myself
  25. Resign using lots of swear words
  26. See the northern lights
  27. Travel in a fighter jet
  28. Swim with a dolphin
  29. Go aboard naval destroyer



The ones I have done are underlined and number 29, has been done thanks to one of my great friends Saadia Qayyum who will probably never read this post. Follow her on twitter  


Here's hoping for an interesting decade!


Cheers,


Z

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Rise of The Puppies!

People have continuously been asking me what is up with my hate of puppies. For those who don't know what I am on about, I had been posting the term "Kill a Puppy" as the solution to all of life's problems. It's time to spill the beans behind my hate of the puppies.

Where it came from:

I had just arrived from a Lahore business trip, the flight had been delayed almost an hour which meant that I got home round 2 am and for some reason, I went in to a horrid mood! That mood continued into the next morning. While driving in that atrocious mood I saw a puppy sitting in the middle of the road, so I thought to myself, "Can I cure my mood by driving over that puppy?" Hence began the "Kill a Puppy" trail. And before I start getting hate calls and messages, no puppies were harmed in the process!

There was no actual rationale behind entire trail but a morbid sense of humour. Yes! I have one of those and I am not ashamed of it! But there are some things I inadvertently learned during this escapade which I'm sure you will get a kick out of.

  1. People who have pictures of puppies on their display pictures don't see any humour in it. I know that this one is kind of obvious but being threatened with hell for slaughtering a puppy is a real threat.
  2. Advertising teasers can run longer: Since there was no campaign after my death to the puppies thing, the thing to note was the level of interest in the entire thing. So, if my advertising colleagues want to run a teaser campaign for a brand they can go far beyond the recommended 3 days, but, you need to make sure that the "shock and awe" value needs to be equivalent of threatening a cute cuddly little creature with a horrible and bloody death!
  3. Women's masturbation is called killing a puppy! This was actually new to me and some interesting information someone pointed out over twitter. So, ladies, kill away!
  4. Social paradox of language and imagery. On facebook and twitter we have two kinds of people, Urdu speakers and English speakers. The word 'puppy' is an English word that evokes images of a cute cuddly creature that you want to care for and love, and threatening it with death is an unimaginable crime. On the other hand if you use the term "Kuttay kay bachay ko maar do" (Literal translation of kill a puppy in Urdu) no one gives a crap!
  5. Zardari all the way! I admit, I should have seen this one coming, anything related to dogs and immediately someone will make a Zardari quip!
  6. If you let out your dark side, someone else will too! People admitted to prior situations where they actually killed or ended up hurting an animal. It's a side everyone has and we all need to respect our dark sides. No judgement here, I love you all for who you are, you can share with me because I understand! Nuff said!
  7. Animal rights groups in the country are surprisingly inactive! Yes we do have animal rights groups in Pakistan!
  8. People have filthy minds! We all know this and I just wanted to say it again, almost everyone at one point mistook the word "puppy" for "pappi" (which means 'kiss' in Urdu). Again, no judgements!

I hope you enjoyed the uselessness of this entire exercise! For those who know me, after Antonio, this was the most fun I had on social media!

Cheers,

Z

PS: Kill a puppy!

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Drive Time

I believe I have spent 2 years in terms of time in the driving seat of a car over the decade and a half of driving, and over these years I believe I have become wise in the ways of shaving time when it comes from getting from point A to point B.
I decided to put them up on the internet so I don't forget when I become senile or (and this is more likely) I hire a driver.
Following are some of the techniques I have found that are spectacularly effective when it comes to saving time while commuting to work.
Technique 1: Knowledge is power:
This is perhaps the most critical technique of all, you need to know the the route you are travelling. Each and every road has its own traffic patterns depending upon how it is built for instance U-turns have a high chance of vehicles moving at a snails pace in an attempt to make a turn, this usually happens on the fast lane. You need to know where each such obstruction is and plan a lane switch far in advance.
Be ready to make lane switches depending upon all obstructions, whether its a pot hole, U-turn or even a know thaila stand.
Technique 2: Sometimes the shortest distance is NOT a straight line:
When traversing long distances, the conventional wisdom is to take the shortest possible distance in order to save time. In some cases this is not true. You need to choose a route that has traffic moving at a higher momentum. This is usually a very long route but the question you need answer ultimately is do you want to save time or fuel.
I take a route to work that adds an additional 3 Kms to my commute, but I also save 10 minutes. The reason for this is people generally avoid known long routes leaving them empty so you can cover them quicker avoiding traffic congestion.
Technique 3: Know your side streets
On certain roads at certain times there is only one alternative, get off the road. This is where your homework will come in handy, figure out which side street is open and where it goes. If a road is clogged for miles, your only hope to keep moving are the side streets. this will require some proir recon or you can take the risk of following another driver who enters a sidestreet and hope he knows what he's doing. This is a double edged sword, the driver ahead might be going to his own home or he could lead you out.
Technique 4: Do NOT run a red light!
In high traffic situations this might end up wasting your own precious time and the time of others. When there is a LOT of traffic, you need to wait for the signal to turn, hoping you might skid through at the last second when the light turns red, will land you in another jam. The traffic that just had their signal opened are also in a hurry, you will end up becoming the idiot that blocks their right of way and someone will block your so you will become stuck again. Please respect the singals and the traffic wardens, their job is hard enough as it is. You will infact save time and sanity if you are simply patient.
Technique 5: Give an inch, gain a mile
This call is not taken often enough by motorists. In situations where there is traffic coming from multiple directions and there is no traffic warden or signal, typically in sidestreets, people try to get their own car through which just creates a mesh of bonnet to bonnet cars who cant go anywhere and end up blocking everyone for hours. Take this call and wait, ask the driver net to you to do the same, in situations like these all that is needed is to show a little patience and let one direction of traffic clear, and you are home free.
Technique 6: Eyes front!
Be aware of the traffic ahead of you and know which kinds of vehicles are in your lane, for instance if you see a big trwaler in your lane, even if it is moving fast, it might be best if you move out from behind it early because laden tucks do not move too fast.
Technique 7: Know what to get stuck behind
There are certain vehicles that will always find their way in a heavy traffic situation like ambulances and police cars, however, sometimes you will be faces with an odd choice if you are traversing an industrial area. You may see two vehicles ahead of you that are the same type of heavy trucks, one laden and one empty. This is just pointing out the obvious but move behind the unladen truck. The reason is simple, the laden one is pulling a very heavy load but the unladen one has just a powerful engine and is surprisingly nimble without the load to an extent you will be surprised by it in a drag race. Pick the empty truck over the laden one anyday!
Technique 8: Listen to the radio
Another obvious one, but, tune into a radio station that gives regular traffic updates even if it means listening to crappy songs you cant stand. This will provide you with vital intelligence on which route to take. It is upto you to decide how to use the information.
An unseen benefit of this habit is you may learn of a jam well in advance, and so will other drivers. If you have a sufficient amount of time between acquiring the report and arriving on the 'jammed' road, it may be wise to take the route on which the jam is reported, why, you ask. The reason is simple, other divers heard the same news and are also avoiding that route which will alleviate the pressure on that route and divert it elsewhere, you may just find an unjammed road if you get there with an enough of a delay. For me this works around 70% of the time. But, you need to make your call yourself.
Technique 9: Experiment with time
Sometimes leaving home at a later time will help you get to the office on time. try leaving earlier or later and see which time avoids you the major traffic, for instance, your actual route migh be 15 minutes which is extended to 45 minutes because of traffic congestion. You might leave the house at 8:15 in order to get to the office at 9 allowing for the congestion, try leaving at 8:40 once in a while and see how you fare with different traffic conditions, believe me, you WILL find an optimum time to leave which is the quickest for you. And remember, being 30 minutes early to the office won't kill anyone if it means leaving very early to avoid traffic.
Happy Driving! And let me know your techniques!

Cheers,

Z

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Hey There Beautiful!

This post is an open letter to all my lovely ladies. This includes everyone, my friends, ex-es, colleagues, crushes and an assortment of different relations. In short, if you are a woman, this is for you.

I am sure most of my male buddies have my back on this but there are some truths that need to be told. The following list is stuff I've been dying to say to women but due to certain situations, I did not and it also contains stuff I have been harping on to certain women but for some stupid reason you just can't get it through your thick skulls. Now I am putting it all into writing, so read on for the good and the bad:


  1. Life is NOT a fairy tale! There is NO knight in shining armour, no prince charming who will sweep you off your feet, and mirrors don't tell you that you are the fairest in the land and luckily for you they cant laugh either! Get on a Treadmill!!
  2. When I tell you you look gorgeous in that dumass dress, trust me! I know my shit, I spend a lot of time staring at chicks to know this crap!
  3. Some of my luscious friends with all the right curves in the right places, think they are fat. When you tell me you think you are fat, you give me an excuse to look at those perfect curves. And I get a free pass to imagine you naked that is why I zoned out! Not because I was articulating an untruthful answer! Take it as a compliment! Those curves are awesome!!!
  4. For the last time! Clothes do not make you ass look fat!! Your fat ass makes your fat ass look fat!! Treadmill!!
  5. If you are not fat, you'll look awesome even in pyjamas! Trust me and stop fidgeting about it! The 'fidgeting about it' is unsexy!
  6. Stop assuming your other half is a pig! He is a good man and is committing to you!
  7. If you are wondering why you are still single, think back was there a dude you were rude to just because. Yes? Well I hate to break it to you, but, you have a reputation as a bitch. Yup, news travels fast in Manland and we are freaked about rejection, you let a dude down hard. That's YOUR fault! Deal with it and be NICE! No one likes a self righteous bitch anyway!
  8. Sometimes we like to pamper you just for the heck of it, that new dress is not an apology for some horrible thing we are not telling you about! Calm the fuck down!
  9. Shave your legs! We notice and gauge your overall hygiene by your feet! That carpet on your legs is just 'ick'. Maybe that's why you've never been on a second date or on a first one! Gillette Mach 3 will do!
  10. Contrary to your opinion we do love you the way you are! 'nuff said!
  11. Your insecurity is the biggest turnoff you have
  12. Please do not pressure me into doing you a favour that I am not comfortable with, your job is your job. Do it the fuck yourself! Having boobs does not get you a pass! This attitude always results in a reputation for you!

Please don't be offended by any of the above. There are probably more but I'm going to club them into other topics. Use my honesty as an opportunity to grow!

We love no matter what!

Cheers,

Z

Sunday, April 3, 2011

The Religion Called Cricket

Dear friends and countrymen,

Pakistan lost to India in the world cup semi final. I cried when Misbah was caught out, it was the nail in an inevitable coffin that me and my friend Danial saw coming when we exchanged a glance at the fall of Afridi's wicket, with a barely noticeable nod. I saw a nation in stunned silence! No one believed it, how could we lose?

For thirty short days, leading up to a climax of 8 sort hours, a nation that has been divided by our own insecurities became one. We all had one identity, we were no longer mohajirs, pathans, punjabis etc we were all Pakistanis, we bled and cried the colour green. It was a feeling of one-ness that our leaders have failed spectacularly to bring us. Afridi and the boys, actually achieved the impossible. They united us, briefly, but united us. It is a feeling I already miss. It is because of that feeling that we have been gentle with the team.

Conspiracy theories started flowing in and I'm still hearing a new one every day. It gives new meaning to the idiom, "jitnay moun, utni baatain" (many mouths, as many stories). I've heard them all, from simple match fixing, to God punishing us for letting Raymond Davis go.

Quite frankly, I've had it. No one seems to be saying that India just played better. The batting lineups were evenly matched, so were the bowling lineups. It was a clash of equals, titans. But, please notice Pakistan gave away 18 extras, India just gave away 2. Pakistan dropped 6 catches, India dropped none.

Discipline was the only difference between the teams. India just did one thing right... they played like professionals. If Pakistan had held on to the balls hit their way and not given away so many wides and no balls, Pakistan would have cruised to a victory. India just played better cricket. Their team had more experienced players in Tendulkar and Sehwag, men who know how not to crack under pressure.

The point is they MUST be doing something right. Even if it is fixing a match or two without getting caught with their hands in the cookie jar.

It's hight time we put all the conspiracy theories to rest. The clearly have not been working for us at all. We need to figure out what India is doing right as a nation, and we need to figure out how to beat them at it instead of just pointing fingers. We as a nation need to stop with the bullshit and do our jobs. The cleaner needs to clean the best way possible, the policeman needs to start policing and honouring his oath, the executive need to execute with dignity, the politician needs to do his own job. In short we need to start being honest with our professions and stop looking for someone to blame.

It is very simple when you look at it, we need to do the task awarded to us with honour. No two ways about it, we need to start owning up to our own flaws and start taking on the world. Only then will we be able to bring home the gold, not just in cricket, but in every field.

Afridi was the one who led me to this realization, the team reignited my love for cricket (with a little help from Danial). I don't blame the team for losing and I congratulate every Indian for the win. Your team played like a unit, and it was a well deserved win. To the Pakistani team, I say you united the nation behind you, however, there is no column for 'moral victory', either you win or you lose. This time you lost, but we are expecting the trophy in Karachi in 2015. Time to shake it off, figure out what went wrong and make sure that it never goes wrong again.

Please win the upcoming T20 world cup, I want the high you gave me again, and don't forget to take India to the cleaners in 2012!

Go Greens!

Z

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Guide To Using Facebook

  1. The first commandment of facebook: thou shalt not steal status updates!
  2. The second commandment of facebook: Liking thy own status makes thee super lame!
  3. The third commandment of facebook: thou shalt not tag cool people to make thy lame profile seem cool! It makes thee a loser!
  4. The fourth commandment of facebook: thou shalt not beg for comments and likes! It makes thee super desperate!
  5. The fifth commandment of facebook: thou shalt not cyber stalk thy neighbour's wife!
  6. The sixth commandment of facebook: Thou shalt not tag chicks in every lame picture of thyself!
  7. The seventh commandment of facebook: thou shalt not use the words "I wanna have friendship with you" in an attempt to have more chicks in thy friends list!!
  8. The eighth commandment of facebook: thou shalt not update your status after every minute! No one careth if thou has eaten an apple!!
  9. The ninth commandment of facebook: thou shalt not use facebook to keep tabs on thy ex-es! Thou shalt get a life!!
  10. The tenth commandment of facebook: thou shalt not copy paste famous quotes and utilize them as status updates!!
  11. The eleventh and final commandment of facebook: thou shalt stop abusing facebook and get back to work!!

Sunday, October 10, 2010

How To Respect A Man And His Car

Being the owner of a car, I end up driving people around a lot. It's not that I mind, but, sometimes I wish people would just respect my ride. It's not any one's fault there is no rule book for the passenger, so, here is the rule book for all passengers in the car.

Before you start reading the rules, I need to give you a background. It is estimated that 80% of all drivers are men and most of these men have unusual relationships with their cars. The reason is that a car is an expensive piece of machinery he has probably bought with his hard earned money. The driver's seat is a sanctuary, where he is in control, unopposed, unrestricted. There is an emotional bond that even the car owner cannot understand, that's just the way things are.

Rule 1: The car is not a garbage bin

This is something most people do unconsciously since, our parents never taught us to use a proper garbage can, so we have no idea what to do with a rolled up tissue in our hand. Any owner of a car will tell you that it is very annoying to find pieces of trash on the floor. So, be respectful and throw it out of the window, if in case you are too environment conscious and do not want to pollute the planet any further, put the trash in your pocket. In summation, the guy giving you a lift probably spends time and money to keep his car clean, under no circumstances do YOU, the passenger, have any right to litter.

Rule 2: Ask permission before lighting up

Most men smoke or have attempted to smoke at some point in their lives, it's nothing to be ashamed of. However, when you decide to light up in someone else's car ask permission first. Even if the guy giving you a lift is a smoker and does smoke in his own car, you should ask if you are initiating the smoking ritual. You don't have to go through this ritual if the owner lights up first.

Rule 3: Roll up the windows when getting out

Some driver do not have or prefer not to use the air conditioning device, they usually roll down the window. If you are encountered with such a driver, feel free to roll down the window for the duration of your journey, but, always keep in mind that when you get out of the car it is YOUR responsibility to roll your window back up, unless he specifically asks you not to. You don't even need to take out any extra time, just roll it up when on the approach to the final destination.

Rule 4: Until further notice, the car you are sitting in is flawless

Women specifically have this habit, it's not a good one and is extremely disrespectful. You should never, under any circumstances point out any flaws in the car. As mentioned above, men are emotionally involved with their vehicles, so, being a nice person he'll probably not respond to your maligning of his beloved car. It is as if someone started saying bad things about you to your face. Whatever the condition of the car, it's still more than you have and he is the one doing you a favour by letting you into his intimate space, respect him and his car.

Rule 5: Do not fiddle with the cool looking buttons

There is a reason the designers of the car you are freeloading in angled the entire cockpit to accommodate the driver and not you. All those really cool looking buttons serve a purpose in the control and maintenance of the car, believe it or not, drivers set all those buttons to an adjustment that allows them to control their car. When you have the urge to change the settings of the air conditioning, just ask him to do it for you or ask permission first. Sometimes having the air conditioning on makes the car move slower, because the air conditioner drains power that would be better utilized in getting you to your desired destination. There is nothing evil about pushing a button, but, give your friend some basic respect and ask him first.

Rule 6: Backseat driving is inhumane

Dads and women(wives included) have this problem. Dads just never trust their sons but women(wives excluded) have no reason. Barking out orders to switch lanes, overtake or even slow down is the quickest way to be never allowed in the vehicle again. You will notice next time he will start making excuses so he does not have to give you a lift next time. I even know some men who have asked people to get out of the vehicle for attempting to take the reins. Always remember that when driving, the man in the driver's seat is in control, you should never attempt to move in on his control. Sit back, relax and let him drive, everything will flow much smoother.

Rule 7: Navigators should have a route plan

This is just simply an oversight even drivers make even when taking a lift from a friend. It is not easy to make turns on a whim when momentum and traffic are working against you. So, if you are navigating a route that the driver does not know it is always a good idea to let him know at least 100 meters ahead of time when he needs to make a turn so he can switch lanes, speed up or slow down to make an accident free turn. It is even more annoying when you ask him to take his car to a place where cars are not meant to go like crowded markets, narrow streets or bear tracks. Let him know before hand what he is getting into and chances are he'll ask you for a route that is most suited to him and his car and you can navigate that route.

Rule 8: The car and driver are not yours to command

Keep this in mind every time you get a lift from every one, like a bus does not go out of the way so you can get off in your living room, your friend is not bound by any law to late you right to the gate of your house or the burger joint you are suddenly having a craving for. It takes time, effort, money and patience to drive a car and drivers are usually at the end of their reserves by the time you park your freeloading butt in passenger seat. He bought the car for his convenience not yours, keep that in mind next time you decide that you want to go somewhere else. It is a lot like backseat driving, it becomes a burden very very quickly.

Rule 9: The driver saw it before you!

Another offshoot of backseat driving is when you are too much of a coward, let me explain. God decided to put eyes on the front of the drivers head and a windshield on the front of the car. Your friend who is kind enough to give you a lift is looking ahead and has already seen the guy cross the road and adjusted his driving accordingly. You provide no help by gasping or (in some cases) squealing like a little girl and pointing out what he has already seen. Most, if not all, drivers make such calculations in the fraction of a second before you ever notice anything. Trust your friend to know what he is doing and just chill.

Rule 10: The dash board and seat are not footrests!

If you are one of those people who have this habit, you have probably been reprimanded or even thrown out of a moving vehicle. Putting your feet up may seem more comfortable to you, especially if you need access to your toes for nail polish and assorted cosmetic treatments, but, it is the highest form of disrespect you can display to a car and its owner. Even the shyest driver will draw the line at seeing your foot on his seat. Never, under any circumstance, place your feet on the dashboard or the seat. Be respectful and keep your smelly feet firmly planted on the floor.

Drive Safe,

Z